The symbolism of Barrack Obama, the man, was one of his most underrated qualities. Obama was good role model for uprightness and he broaden the scope many had of black maniliness.
Vasectomy and any loss of fertility by a man is viewed as a surrender of masculinity. African cultures, obsessed with procreation, ensured that no man remained without children of his own.
Sex was so much deeper than what we were taught in the rough school of masculinity. What we saw out here was only the 10 per cent, the tip of the iceberg. The genital centred sexuality where pleasure is good. More pleasure is better. Sex is natural part of human development but in our society, there is no room allowed for honesty and understanding.