This pressure about being a man is all about context and of course socialization. Masculinity is a public performance and man-xeity is the performance pressure.
The symbolism of Barrack Obama, the man, was one of his most underrated qualities. Obama was good role model for uprightness and he broaden the scope many had of black maniliness.
….real men do not need to outdo each other. They have nothing to prove. They do not tout labels or ascribe to the stereotypes; metrosexual, lad, macho or gentleman. They are just who they are.