Parenting psychologists generally assert that the first three years of a child’s life are foundational. How many fathers become absent in the early stages of infancy only to return bearing gifts and engaging in remedial parenting hoping to catch up on lost years over a series of fun weekends? Gabor Maté explains that children have an attachment need and in the absence of a nurturing adult to attach to, they tend to fill the void with a peer group.
A man I hardly knew, a father I had but never had and would never have was suddenly no more. If there was ever any hope of forming a relationship with him, that flicker of hope had disappeared into pitch darkness.
There is that age when you are in control, nay, in charge of your sexuality, your zip and your seminal wealth. It is that age when you eat what you want, not what you are served.