Danger Comes In Cute Packages

Female criminals behind bars on TV are typecast as ugly, butch and foul mouthed. So it was pleasant reversal when Langata Women’s prison in Nairobi held an annual beauty pageant. The winner was stunning and a sight for sore eyes, until I looked up her back story. Two months earlier, she had been incarcerated for stabbing her boyfriend 22 times to death. A classic case of fatal attraction.

Yet, I still found myself empathising with her. Like most men, I am socialised to shower female inmates who pass for attractive with pity. Where there is clear evidence of premeditated murder, my instinct is to explain it away as a crime of passion and an act of self-defence. She must have been wronged and provoked to anger. Why else would such an angelic face deliberately dice up her lover?

Cross Generational Dating and The Hook Up Culture.

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A 70 year old pastor, was caught in a lodging in broad daylight with the wife of one of his congregants. Pastors getting caught with their pants down is no longer news but the allure in this particular story was the woman’s age. The straying woman was in her mid-30s and she was married to a 40 year old man. The wife’s husband got wind of the affair and arrived with his posse, TV cameras in tow and busted the couple. The elderly man was dragged out by his shirt collar as he endured slaps to his face. The aggrieved husband was so annoyed, he demanded dowry reparations for damages caused to his ‘investment’. I am not making this up.

Nonetheless, the fury was reserved for his wife. He descended on her with blows and kicks whilst trying to strip her at the same time, I suppose to further humiliate her. She was not a submissive woman and resisted the assault as she gave him a piece of his mind in the ensuing struggle. While the onlookers agreed that pastors have gone rogue and that the wife was out of order, it was the wounded husband who bore the brunt of the social scorn. How could he have been scooped by a guka? As expected, social media commentators deduced that the man was an outright failure. In a society where sexual prowess is a highly rated symbol of masculinity, news of your wife’s affair with a man 30 years your senior, casts a man in very poor light. The younger man obviously failed to appreciate the reality. As men grow older and more prosperous, they tend to start dating younger because they enter the field with the clear advantage of experience.